Self Help Archive

Acting in Film: An Actor’s Take on Movie Making - Michael Caine was a Cockney with burning ambition, unproven talent and few connections. If he wanted to be a movie star, he decided, he'd have to invent himself as one. He went

Anne Lamott: Bird by Bird - I was talking to an artist about why artists have it easy. "Nobody knows how to paint,” I said. “But everybody knows how to write." Sounds facile. But it’s true. When

Basic Black: The Essential Guide for Getting Ahead at Work (and in Life) - Many people who are unhappy with their jobs or just eager to move up have used company time to work on their résumés. And they've probably gone on to photocopy

Better Writing - Good grammar and correct usage --- I think they matter. A lot. In my cosmology, the faster standards erode, the more they matter. On these screens,

Bit Literacy by Mark Hurst -

Buck Brannaman, the Horse Whisperer - Buck Brannaman specializes in the improbable. Got a skittish, poorly trained horse? A bucking bronco? A steed who seems not to care about anything? When an owner brings that uncooperative

Cosmo Doogood’s Urban Almanac, 2006 -       Cosmo Doogood's Urban Almanac, 2006 Eric Utne Year after year, if you're like me, you

Eats, Shoots and Leaves - Good grammar is only half the story. There's also punctuation. And isn't that a snore? Or was, when you and I sat under dusty chalkboards and suffered through

Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life - Judith Orloff announces she's a doctor right on the cover of her books. That's because she knows she'd lose a lot of potential readers if she didn't billboard

Endangered Pleasures: In Defense of Naps, Bacon, Martinis, Profanity, and Other Indulgences - Our ancestors came to this country to escape intolerance. Two and a half centuries later, we --- well, many of us --- have become the kind of people our ancestors fled.

Esther Perel: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence - Esther Perel gave a TED Talk on Valentine's Day: "The secret to desire in a long-term relationship." Two weeks later, 830,000 people had viewed it. Now she's up to 5 million

Grandma’s Dead: Breaking Bad News with Baby Animals - Grandma's Dead: Breaking Bad News with Baby Animals Amanda McCall & Ben Schwartz “Afraid to tell your girlfriend her ass looks fat?” “Need to let your neighbors know you're a registered sex

Happier -   Happier: Learn the Secrets

Healthy Aging: A Lifelong Guide to Your Physical and Spiritual Well-Being - Andrew Weil is America's best-known revolutionary. You know him as a doctor --- a pioneer in what he calls Integrative Medicine --- who gets around in the very

How Not to Look Old: Fast and Effortless Ways to Look 10 Years Younger, 10 Pounds Lighter, 10 Times Better - One of my favorite scenes in “The Big Sleep” ---  the classic film adapted from one of Raymond Chandler's best thrillers --- has Humphrey Bogart coming into a bookstore

I Am Awake - Norman Mailer said you don’t really know a woman “until you meet her in court.” I might add, “Or until she sends you her book. With Fern Nesson, the question requires another:

Improv Wisdom: Don’t Prepare, Just Show Up - If you ever need to speak in public, this book is gold. But there's a second, newer audience for this book. Since January 20 I've been hearing one line over

In Lieu of Flowers: A Conversation for the Living - Nancy Cobb has been there. In 1982, her father took a short walk off a high place. Her mother, vibrant and funny and her best friend, drew the Alzheimer’s card

Intimate Death: How the Dying Teach Us How to Live - A Head Butler reader wrote to tell me about her 88 year-old mother, who was, last month, clearly failing. Her family made “the hard decision” to bring her to a

Life Is a Verb: 37 Days to Wake Up, Be Mindful, and Live Intentionally - In the beginning, this book annoyed the hell out of me. Here's the set-up: “In October of  2003, my stepfather was diagnosed with lung cancer. He died 37 days later.” Tragic.